Good Friday Morning Ladies!!
How excited are you that it's almost the weekend? Thrilled I can imagine! ;)
I kept my little chickadees home with me today, mostly for selfish reasons. And I was honestly just looking for a little quality time with the two of them before the chaos of the weekend ensues. I'm not one for homeschooling (I and/or my children would not survive the experience, quite literally), but I can definitely see the comfort in it.
Proverbs 22...
I actually prepped for v. 3,
3 A prudent person foresees danger and takes precautions.
The simpleton goes blindly on and suffers the consequences.
but I'm now liking v. 17-18 for today.
If you look at the section of the Proverb that we're beginning to read through (and that will last through Proverbs 24:22), it's summarizes "Thirty Sayings of the Wise." I have to laugh, because I feel as though we've had days and days of wise sayings...but if Solomon was to boil it all down, well, here you go.
As for the format, the points are divided into paragraphs, and the great thing about these, is he includes some explanation behind each to further drive home his point. I, for one, love explanation because it reinforces the concept for me. Let's just say, my head is a little harder than others' and I need to hear it time and time again before it actually sinks in!
He kicks off the 30 wise points with v. 17 and 18.
17 Listen to the words of the wise;
apply your heart to my instruction.
18 For it is good to keep these sayings in your heart
and always ready on your lips.
So, my friends, I love these two verses because this is the foundation of wisdom. This is how wisdom goes from words on a page to changing lives.
On a side note, I would love to have these two verses hanging above my kitchen doors, tattooed on my forehead (backwards, of course, so I could read it when I looked in the mirror), and in big bold letters on the cover of my Bible. Personally, I think these two verses should be the general intro to Proverbs (not that the Bible is fallible, because it's not being God-breathed and all!) because without these two verses, then reading Proverbs, or anything else in the Bible, will do nothing for you except become another task on your checklist and a waste of your time.
This sounds harsh, but you have to ask yourself "why" you are reading your Bible. Why are you reading Proverbs? Are you reading to feel like a better Christian, or are you reading to transform your life? Are you reading so you can hold it above your hubby's head that you're more dedicated than he, or are you reading to better YOUR character and YOUR faith with our God? Are you reading because you always have and to skip would be to abandon a routine that seems to "work" some days, or are you reading so that you can wash yourself in His Word and glorify Him in your actions daily?
These are hard truths to face. I know I've done devotions blindly and remained unchanged. But if your heart is invested, the Lord can do anything!
Step One: LISTEN
How many of us listen? Really listen, not just hear? For listening is not the same as hearing. It's like hearing your kids talking...you hear them, but you are not tuned in to be comprehending what they're saying. So you hear, "blah, blah, blah." But if you listened you might hear, "I don't like you. Get out." And then you can tend to the issues. But things left unlistened to, become the seeds that all problems grow out from.
Have you ever been in a conversation with your hubby and he's telling you things he wishes you would do...and you tune out? Or you start writing a grocery list in your head? Or you start noticing all the things wrong with the room you're sitting in? Me too!
Have you ever read your Bible and then "wake up" two chapters later because your mind has wandered all over the place? Sometimes it reminds me of being in college and dutifully but "uninvestedly" reading my text books. And the reason I would justify tuning out was "I will never use this in real life because it has nothing to do with me."
Nice. Nice and self-centered. Nice and ignorant. Nice and naive. For to treat the Bible in the same fashion is ultimately to blasphemy His Word. Ouch. I know...it's Friday. I should probably go easy! But, over this weekend, I really want you to look at your intentions. What are your motives? For if they're not genuine FOR YOU, then this is all for naught.
Step Two: TO THE WORDS OF THE WISE
"Be careful little ears what you hear....Be careful little ears what you hear...for the Father up above is looking down in love...Be careful little ears what you hear."
This is a song Makena sings in Awana and I love it. What are we listening to? Who are we listening to? Because what and who determines our outlook and understanding of life.
Are we listening to the Real Housewives of the O.C. where boobs, money, and bling equate happiness? Are we listening to Oprah and the Universe when it comes to finding peace? Are we listening to our non-Christian girlfriends when they say, "oh, no big deal; just leave him; you're better than him anyway?"
Who are we listening to???? And what are they saying????
And how do you know if what you hear is wise? You can always compare it to Scripture. If throughout the Bible, what you're being told is supported, then it is wise. If is is contradictory to is, then it is not. It is very plain and simple.
Step Three: APPLY YOUR HEART TO MY INSTRUCTION
Apply...think of His instruction like facial cream for your heart. Lather it, smear it, layer it in a thick coat all over your heart. For your heart affects how you see reality and therefore how you interact with others. The goal is to see reality and your life as clearly as God sees it. For only then is wisdom possible.
You have to transform your heart, because if you only alter your behavior, it will only be temporary. It will only last for a week or two. Instead, you have to change the root of your being in order for the change to be lasting.
We are so on our way, girls! We may be wrestling with things in our own lives in individual circumstances that cause us to doubt, waver, and at times choose our own paths. But we are in pursuit of Him! And this will never go unnoticed by our heavenly Father!
For He is after us with a vengeance. He loves us, more than you love your little chickadees. He wants to protect us, more than we want to save our kiddos. And He has given His Son to cover our sins...the greatest gift ever. At times the goodness of God and His sacrifice for my life is completely incomprehensible to me! I stand in awe!
So, girls, sorry for this not being so light! I didn't even tackle v.18 for this was heavy!
I love you...am so grateful for this journey we are on together...and stand in awe of His wisdom as we grow!
Have a great weekend!
Rebecca
Friday, January 22, 2010
Thursday, January 21, 2010
Your Turn
To my Favorite People in the Whole World!
I wanted to take a break hearing from me for a day. And instead, wanted to hear from you.
I've pasted the entire Proverb 21 below, and ask that you forward it back to me with comments underneath a verse or two that stuck out to you.
I'll compile our insight collectively, make all contributions anonymous, and we'll see how we, as sisters in Christ, are learning and growing in His Word!
Can't wait to hear your thoughts!
Love!! Rebecca
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Proverbs 21
1 The king's heart is like a stream of water directed by the Lord ;
he guides it wherever he pleases.
2 People may be right in their own eyes,
but the Lord examines their heart.
3 The Lord is more pleased when we do what is right and just
than when we offer him sacrifices.
4 Haughty eyes, a proud heart,
and evil actions are all sin.
5 Good planning and hard work lead to prosperity,
but hasty shortcuts lead to poverty.
6 Wealth created by a lying tongue
is a vanishing mist and a deadly trap.s
7 The violence of the wicked sweeps them away,
because they refuse to do what is just.
8 The guilty walk a crooked path;
the innocent travel a straight road.
9 It's better to live alone in the corner of an attic
than with a quarrelsome wife in a lovely home.
10 Evil people desire evil;
their neighbors get no mercy from them.
11 If you punish a mocker, the simpleminded become wise;
if you instruct the wise, they will be all the wiser.
12 The Righteous Ones knows what is going on in the homes of the wicked;
he will bring disaster on them.
13 Those who shut their ears to the cries of the poor
will be ignored in their own time of need.
14 A secret gift calms anger;
a bribe under the table pacifies fury.
15 Justice is a joy to the godly,
but it terrifies evildoers.
16 The person who strays from common sense
will end up in the company of the dead.
17 Those who love pleasure become poor;
those who love wine and luxury will never be rich.
18 The wicked are punished in place of the godly,
and traitors in place of the honest.
19 It's better to live alone in the desert
than with a quarrelsome, complaining wife.
20 The wise have wealth and luxury,
but fools spend whatever they get.
21 Whoever pursues righteousness and unfailing love
will find life, righteousness, and honor.
22 The wise conquer the city of the strong
and level the fortress in which they trust.
23 Watch your tongue and keep your mouth shut,
and you will stay out of trouble.
24 Mockers are proud and haughty;
they act with boundless arrogance.
25 Despite their desires, the lazy will come to ruin,
for their hands refuse to work.
26 Some people are always greedy for more,
but the godly love to give!
27 The sacrifice of an evil person is detestable,
especially when it is offered with wrong motives.
28 A false witness will be cut off,
but a credible witness will be allowed to speak.
29 The wicked bluff their way through,
but the virtuous think before they act.
30 No human wisdom or understanding or plan
can stand against the Lord .
31 The horse is prepared for the day of battle,
but the victory belongs to the Lord .
I wanted to take a break hearing from me for a day. And instead, wanted to hear from you.
I've pasted the entire Proverb 21 below, and ask that you forward it back to me with comments underneath a verse or two that stuck out to you.
I'll compile our insight collectively, make all contributions anonymous, and we'll see how we, as sisters in Christ, are learning and growing in His Word!
Can't wait to hear your thoughts!
Love!! Rebecca
************************************
Proverbs 21
1 The king's heart is like a stream of water directed by the Lord ;
he guides it wherever he pleases.
2 People may be right in their own eyes,
but the Lord examines their heart.
3 The Lord is more pleased when we do what is right and just
than when we offer him sacrifices.
4 Haughty eyes, a proud heart,
and evil actions are all sin.
5 Good planning and hard work lead to prosperity,
but hasty shortcuts lead to poverty.
6 Wealth created by a lying tongue
is a vanishing mist and a deadly trap.s
7 The violence of the wicked sweeps them away,
because they refuse to do what is just.
8 The guilty walk a crooked path;
the innocent travel a straight road.
9 It's better to live alone in the corner of an attic
than with a quarrelsome wife in a lovely home.
10 Evil people desire evil;
their neighbors get no mercy from them.
11 If you punish a mocker, the simpleminded become wise;
if you instruct the wise, they will be all the wiser.
12 The Righteous Ones knows what is going on in the homes of the wicked;
he will bring disaster on them.
13 Those who shut their ears to the cries of the poor
will be ignored in their own time of need.
14 A secret gift calms anger;
a bribe under the table pacifies fury.
15 Justice is a joy to the godly,
but it terrifies evildoers.
16 The person who strays from common sense
will end up in the company of the dead.
17 Those who love pleasure become poor;
those who love wine and luxury will never be rich.
18 The wicked are punished in place of the godly,
and traitors in place of the honest.
19 It's better to live alone in the desert
than with a quarrelsome, complaining wife.
20 The wise have wealth and luxury,
but fools spend whatever they get.
21 Whoever pursues righteousness and unfailing love
will find life, righteousness, and honor.
22 The wise conquer the city of the strong
and level the fortress in which they trust.
23 Watch your tongue and keep your mouth shut,
and you will stay out of trouble.
24 Mockers are proud and haughty;
they act with boundless arrogance.
25 Despite their desires, the lazy will come to ruin,
for their hands refuse to work.
26 Some people are always greedy for more,
but the godly love to give!
27 The sacrifice of an evil person is detestable,
especially when it is offered with wrong motives.
28 A false witness will be cut off,
but a credible witness will be allowed to speak.
29 The wicked bluff their way through,
but the virtuous think before they act.
30 No human wisdom or understanding or plan
can stand against the Lord .
31 The horse is prepared for the day of battle,
but the victory belongs to the Lord .
Wednesday, January 20, 2010
Director of Our Steps
Good Morning girls!!
I thought I should start with this particular verse this morning, since yesterday morning did not go as planned for me...and you did not receive this email as I had intended! :) Let's just say being sick does not have its benefits!
So let me dive right in...Proverbs 20:24
24 The Lord directs our steps,
so why try to understand everything along the way?
Honestly, girls, whose path are we choosing each and every day?
Are we forcing our own way? Or are we actually putting our trust in Him hour by hour and allowing Him to lead, guide, direct our actions, words, and thoughts, ultimately for His glory?
Answer these questions to find out:
1. Do you turn off your God sensor in the heat of the moment?
2. Do you assume you know what God is doing when He seems to allow fires in our lives?
3. Do you sit and try to figure out His rhyme and reason for allowing things to happen?
4. Do you get so caught up with getting answers that when you don't get them, you are paralyzed in thought and in faith (like a scratched CD skipping the same note over and over and you can't get past it)?
5. Do you demand to know what it all means and when you don't, you become combative, irritated, annoyed, angry and then take it out on the person that is involved in the situation with you?
6. After the fact, do you look back and see the needlessness of the chaos you just created for yourself?
7. Have you ever felt the desperateness of trying to figure things out and in order to do so try to fit the situation into the scenario in your head, knowing in your heart that your probably wrong??
I know! Me too!!
Let's just say, that since writing these thoughts on Proverbs, my brain has been forced to wrap itself around the root spiritual issues that do not come easy. And the root of this Proverb is trust. Trust in a God who knows best. Trust in a God who has your best interests at heart and who want to bless you mightily! Trust in God's plan for your life, whether you get it or not!
Proverbs 3:5 "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. Seek His will in all your ways and He will direct your path."
From a human perspective, trust is not easy. It does not come naturally to most of us. Especially if the people around us on earth have failed us in the past. (And if they haven't yet, well, they're bound to in the future. Right?) And when we DON'T understand the why of what is happening, that makes trust almost an impossible thing because humanly we can't make sense of the situation.
But the Lord is so different, for He cares for us inside and out, from the minute to the grandiose. He will not let us down or let us go. He is beside us no matter what. And nothing will separate us from His love.
One of my favorite Psalms is 139:1-24. If you ever doubt God's investment in YOU, just read this!
Psalm 37:23-24 "The steps of the godly are directed by the Lord. He delights in every detail of their lives. Though they stumble, they will not fall, for the Lord holds them by the hand."
For God knows all things throughout the continuum of time and space...the past and the future are one story line to Him, with no gaps, no breaks, no unanswered questions, or undone deeds. We all play a role in His story ("His story = history"...I know you've heard that before, but the 6th grade history teacher in me just came out with a vengeance) and it is He who is directing our path, whether we acknowledge it or not. (I will say, things seem to get a little easier when we surrender our will to His...and fires that we must walk through will refine us, but not burn us.)
Today, just today, see if you can give up that whirring in your brain that has to make everything "make sense" to YOU. See if you can keep your mind from jumping ahead a week, a month, a year, a decade...and instead live in the moment. See if you can love those in your path TODAY regardless of what they've done in the past or going to do in the future. And see if you can allow God, THE GOD who created the universe and who knows how many hairs you have on your head, to take the place as the HEAD of your life and the head of your heart.
Our God is greater than the pain, the questions, and the frustrations of this life. We don't need to know why or even how...all we need to know is that He uses all things for the good of those who love Him and live according to His purpose (paraphrased Romans 8:28).
This is my prayer for your heart today, as well as mine.
Love Mamas!! Enjoy this rain if you're in SoCal!
Rebecca
I thought I should start with this particular verse this morning, since yesterday morning did not go as planned for me...and you did not receive this email as I had intended! :) Let's just say being sick does not have its benefits!
So let me dive right in...Proverbs 20:24
24 The Lord directs our steps,
so why try to understand everything along the way?
Honestly, girls, whose path are we choosing each and every day?
Are we forcing our own way? Or are we actually putting our trust in Him hour by hour and allowing Him to lead, guide, direct our actions, words, and thoughts, ultimately for His glory?
Answer these questions to find out:
1. Do you turn off your God sensor in the heat of the moment?
2. Do you assume you know what God is doing when He seems to allow fires in our lives?
3. Do you sit and try to figure out His rhyme and reason for allowing things to happen?
4. Do you get so caught up with getting answers that when you don't get them, you are paralyzed in thought and in faith (like a scratched CD skipping the same note over and over and you can't get past it)?
5. Do you demand to know what it all means and when you don't, you become combative, irritated, annoyed, angry and then take it out on the person that is involved in the situation with you?
6. After the fact, do you look back and see the needlessness of the chaos you just created for yourself?
7. Have you ever felt the desperateness of trying to figure things out and in order to do so try to fit the situation into the scenario in your head, knowing in your heart that your probably wrong??
I know! Me too!!
Let's just say, that since writing these thoughts on Proverbs, my brain has been forced to wrap itself around the root spiritual issues that do not come easy. And the root of this Proverb is trust. Trust in a God who knows best. Trust in a God who has your best interests at heart and who want to bless you mightily! Trust in God's plan for your life, whether you get it or not!
Proverbs 3:5 "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. Seek His will in all your ways and He will direct your path."
From a human perspective, trust is not easy. It does not come naturally to most of us. Especially if the people around us on earth have failed us in the past. (And if they haven't yet, well, they're bound to in the future. Right?) And when we DON'T understand the why of what is happening, that makes trust almost an impossible thing because humanly we can't make sense of the situation.
But the Lord is so different, for He cares for us inside and out, from the minute to the grandiose. He will not let us down or let us go. He is beside us no matter what. And nothing will separate us from His love.
One of my favorite Psalms is 139:1-24. If you ever doubt God's investment in YOU, just read this!
Psalm 37:23-24 "The steps of the godly are directed by the Lord. He delights in every detail of their lives. Though they stumble, they will not fall, for the Lord holds them by the hand."
For God knows all things throughout the continuum of time and space...the past and the future are one story line to Him, with no gaps, no breaks, no unanswered questions, or undone deeds. We all play a role in His story ("His story = history"...I know you've heard that before, but the 6th grade history teacher in me just came out with a vengeance) and it is He who is directing our path, whether we acknowledge it or not. (I will say, things seem to get a little easier when we surrender our will to His...and fires that we must walk through will refine us, but not burn us.)
Today, just today, see if you can give up that whirring in your brain that has to make everything "make sense" to YOU. See if you can keep your mind from jumping ahead a week, a month, a year, a decade...and instead live in the moment. See if you can love those in your path TODAY regardless of what they've done in the past or going to do in the future. And see if you can allow God, THE GOD who created the universe and who knows how many hairs you have on your head, to take the place as the HEAD of your life and the head of your heart.
Our God is greater than the pain, the questions, and the frustrations of this life. We don't need to know why or even how...all we need to know is that He uses all things for the good of those who love Him and live according to His purpose (paraphrased Romans 8:28).
This is my prayer for your heart today, as well as mine.
Love Mamas!! Enjoy this rain if you're in SoCal!
Rebecca
Tuesday, January 19, 2010
One Foot In Front Of The Other
To My Happy Happy Girls!
I so hope you had an amazing long, long weekend full of family time, romantic moments stolen with your hubby, and maybe just some time for yourself and your Lord! I hope you are refreshed and ready for the week!
To be quite honest with you, my weekend was rough. It was mainly rough because I am my own worst enemy. My hubby would be testimony to that. My expectations, my assumptions, and my interpretation of reality can be so twisted from the truth. And then all following events are based upon that second dimension and I might as well be living on another planet!
I found it quite ironic that this Proverb charted my path this weekend perfectly...
Step One:
3 People ruin their lives by their own foolishness
and then are angry at the Lord.
Oh, girls! Are we all right here at one moment or another? I will say that my own foolishness could have ruined a whole future. My foolishness tends to wrap around my wrong assumptions of what has happened in the past and my false expectations of what is to come. I could probably have an entire relationship with myself and all the thoughts that fly through my head. Wouldn't that be hilarious? Or tragically sad!
But take that craziness we can create for ourselves one step further, and instead of taking a good hard look at the reality we made on our own, we deny responsibility and blame it on the Lord. That blame can look like anger, indifference, or even stifling sadness... because we just don't take a good long look in the mirror.
I was forced to do so this weekend. To see myself through someone else's eyes (which definitely cuts down on the foolishness, as long as you are listening to their point-of-view with a open heart and mind), to acknowledge his honesty, and then to digest and act upon his observations. For consistent action is the true proof of a changed heart.
Step Two:
20 Get all the advice and instruction you can,
so you will be wise the rest of your life.
As this weekend kept going down, and I mean south...down...far from good, I turned to some trusted girlfriends who I knew would keep me grounded and hold me to the standards of the Lord. And it was those girls who posed the right questions and the right kind words, who kept me from my own foolishness.
Wisdom. Wisdom is all around us...and we have been given amazing girlfriends and mentors; we have been given spouses who care for our best and for our marriage's best; and we have the Lord, the King of all Wisdom, instructing us directly in very plain and clear terms what wisdom holds in store for us.
So, open up those hearts and minds to what is around you. For God is good..."get ALL the advice and instruction you CAN." Pretend your at an all-you-can-eat wisdom buffet and eat up mamas! It's calorie free, open 24 hours a day, and will leave you more filled to the depths of your soul than any other substitute in this life.
Step Three:
21 You can make many plans,
but the Lord 's purpose will prevail.
Here's the tale of how I knew that I remained in the palm of the Lord's hand, even if I was, and still am, unwise.
At church Sunday morning, the benediction was all about the Lord's peace...peace that surrounds a soul that only comes from Him. And that's when I shed my first set of tears. For the Lord was speaking directly to my heart of unrest.
I knew I needed to talk to my hubby and ultimately apologize to him, but didn't what to dive into it when the kids were home. Then stepped in my mom who called and asked if the kids could come over to "play" at their house. Let me just say that my parents have never once in 6 years ever asked for my kids to come over to their house unprovoked. So, that was God, undeniably.
Kids gone, Cliff and I talked. And I had to pray through the whole two hours. Pray that my ears were open, my heart was open, my mind was open (I kept silently repeating to myself over and over his key points to make sure I would remember them), and that I would keep my defensive walls down. I had to stop that part of my brain that immediately thinks of arguments to counteract each of Cliff's points. And that was only through His strength.
As the conversation was coming to an end, there were things that I wanted to hear from Cliff to set my heart at ease, but was sure he'd never say. I prayed and prayed and listened. And within the two hours, my hubby's heart was turned and all my concerns were washed away. If you don't know my man, well let me say he's 1/2 German and 1/2 Italian, and there is little that actually changes his mind once it's made. But God did. God did without him knowing. Because ladies, God changed me first.
The conversation ended well. The relationship was restored. We sat eating soup, when my mom called and said that Keegan wanted to spend the night at their house and had already packed his pillow, blanket, and stuffed animal in his bag without me knowing. So, the grandparents, who never ever have my kids over, now wanted to keep them OVERNIGHT...which gave Cliff and I a "stay-cation."
So, here's the deal...my plans were nothing compared to what God had in store. The "Lord's purposes will prevail." How awesome is that? Even working through my 6-year-old son, my 63-year-old mother, my two emailing-like-cray girlfriends, and my amazing hubby who loves me despite my foolishness. God is good.
Girls...one foot in front of the other no matter what the circumstances. Gird yourselves with the wisdom of His Word and the wisdom of those around you. Keep your hearts open to Him. Keep His Word at the forefront of your thoughts. And allow Him to guide you even though you may not be certain of the outcome, for He is amazing!
Love love love!! Here's to a great week!
If you're in town, Titus 2 tomorrow morning 9ish to 10:45, childcare provided at Grace Baptist...the most amazing (in my humble opinion) women's Bible study. It's on submission...so come to be challenge in the most personal and unbelievable way!
Rebecca :)
I so hope you had an amazing long, long weekend full of family time, romantic moments stolen with your hubby, and maybe just some time for yourself and your Lord! I hope you are refreshed and ready for the week!
To be quite honest with you, my weekend was rough. It was mainly rough because I am my own worst enemy. My hubby would be testimony to that. My expectations, my assumptions, and my interpretation of reality can be so twisted from the truth. And then all following events are based upon that second dimension and I might as well be living on another planet!
I found it quite ironic that this Proverb charted my path this weekend perfectly...
Step One:
3 People ruin their lives by their own foolishness
and then are angry at the Lord.
Oh, girls! Are we all right here at one moment or another? I will say that my own foolishness could have ruined a whole future. My foolishness tends to wrap around my wrong assumptions of what has happened in the past and my false expectations of what is to come. I could probably have an entire relationship with myself and all the thoughts that fly through my head. Wouldn't that be hilarious? Or tragically sad!
But take that craziness we can create for ourselves one step further, and instead of taking a good hard look at the reality we made on our own, we deny responsibility and blame it on the Lord. That blame can look like anger, indifference, or even stifling sadness... because we just don't take a good long look in the mirror.
I was forced to do so this weekend. To see myself through someone else's eyes (which definitely cuts down on the foolishness, as long as you are listening to their point-of-view with a open heart and mind), to acknowledge his honesty, and then to digest and act upon his observations. For consistent action is the true proof of a changed heart.
Step Two:
20 Get all the advice and instruction you can,
so you will be wise the rest of your life.
As this weekend kept going down, and I mean south...down...far from good, I turned to some trusted girlfriends who I knew would keep me grounded and hold me to the standards of the Lord. And it was those girls who posed the right questions and the right kind words, who kept me from my own foolishness.
Wisdom. Wisdom is all around us...and we have been given amazing girlfriends and mentors; we have been given spouses who care for our best and for our marriage's best; and we have the Lord, the King of all Wisdom, instructing us directly in very plain and clear terms what wisdom holds in store for us.
So, open up those hearts and minds to what is around you. For God is good..."get ALL the advice and instruction you CAN." Pretend your at an all-you-can-eat wisdom buffet and eat up mamas! It's calorie free, open 24 hours a day, and will leave you more filled to the depths of your soul than any other substitute in this life.
Step Three:
21 You can make many plans,
but the Lord 's purpose will prevail.
Here's the tale of how I knew that I remained in the palm of the Lord's hand, even if I was, and still am, unwise.
At church Sunday morning, the benediction was all about the Lord's peace...peace that surrounds a soul that only comes from Him. And that's when I shed my first set of tears. For the Lord was speaking directly to my heart of unrest.
I knew I needed to talk to my hubby and ultimately apologize to him, but didn't what to dive into it when the kids were home. Then stepped in my mom who called and asked if the kids could come over to "play" at their house. Let me just say that my parents have never once in 6 years ever asked for my kids to come over to their house unprovoked. So, that was God, undeniably.
Kids gone, Cliff and I talked. And I had to pray through the whole two hours. Pray that my ears were open, my heart was open, my mind was open (I kept silently repeating to myself over and over his key points to make sure I would remember them), and that I would keep my defensive walls down. I had to stop that part of my brain that immediately thinks of arguments to counteract each of Cliff's points. And that was only through His strength.
As the conversation was coming to an end, there were things that I wanted to hear from Cliff to set my heart at ease, but was sure he'd never say. I prayed and prayed and listened. And within the two hours, my hubby's heart was turned and all my concerns were washed away. If you don't know my man, well let me say he's 1/2 German and 1/2 Italian, and there is little that actually changes his mind once it's made. But God did. God did without him knowing. Because ladies, God changed me first.
The conversation ended well. The relationship was restored. We sat eating soup, when my mom called and said that Keegan wanted to spend the night at their house and had already packed his pillow, blanket, and stuffed animal in his bag without me knowing. So, the grandparents, who never ever have my kids over, now wanted to keep them OVERNIGHT...which gave Cliff and I a "stay-cation."
So, here's the deal...my plans were nothing compared to what God had in store. The "Lord's purposes will prevail." How awesome is that? Even working through my 6-year-old son, my 63-year-old mother, my two emailing-like-cray girlfriends, and my amazing hubby who loves me despite my foolishness. God is good.
Girls...one foot in front of the other no matter what the circumstances. Gird yourselves with the wisdom of His Word and the wisdom of those around you. Keep your hearts open to Him. Keep His Word at the forefront of your thoughts. And allow Him to guide you even though you may not be certain of the outcome, for He is amazing!
Love love love!! Here's to a great week!
If you're in town, Titus 2 tomorrow morning 9ish to 10:45, childcare provided at Grace Baptist...the most amazing (in my humble opinion) women's Bible study. It's on submission...so come to be challenge in the most personal and unbelievable way!
Rebecca :)
Friday, January 15, 2010
Pray, Obey, Repeat
Let me be the first to congratulate you on surviving the week and really putting the Lord first in your thoughts.
Five days, ladies, and to say I have not been challenged every day, would be a lie.
My intentions and my actions do NOT match, and I am working on self-control. Isn't that a fruit of the spirit?? Wouldn't it be lovely if my fruit tree actually grew self-control?! Haa! I am willing, the Lord is very willing. Let's just see if I can squash all the muck and reality that gets in the way of my willingness!
So thank you so much for going on this journey with me! If any of you have feedback, thoughts, ponderings, I'd love to hear them! Email, text, or call anytime!
One of my dearest friends in the whole world wrote me this yesterday, and I loved it. What I say in 10 paragraphs, she says in one!
"Rebecca – I saw a billboard yesterday that really spoke to my heart. It read, “your past may be stained but your future is spotless.” This gives me hope as I face a new day. I hold tight to a saying an old bible teacher said once, “Pray, obey, repeat”. These nuggets of truth are my inspiration. I am never going to be perfect. No matter what the mistakes I made yesterday or today, I have hope for a better tomorrow. "
Hope, girls! That's what it is all about. That is why we are doing this. Hope in a God who can make us better. Hope in He who is powerful enough to change our circumstances drastically, but wise enough to grow us through them. Hope that our lives will make a difference in those around us. And hope in the eternal life that awaits us with brilliance. Maybe that's why the saying goes, "Hope springs eternal."
Proverbs 15: The Tongue...
Yes, we're back to this topic after Proverbs 13. But I think, again, our words impact our world so much!
1 A gentle answer deflects anger,
but harsh words make tempers flare.
**My Study Bible just said, "Have you ever tried to argue in a whisper? It is equally hard to argue with someone who insists on answering gently. On the other hand, a rising voice and harsh words almost always trigger an angry response. To turn away wrath and seek peace, choose gentle words."
So true! To take it one step farther, why do we argue? Most of the time it's because we're trying to make our point known. But if we can't convey that point without bringing on a fight with our spouse, then we need to sit back and wait. Wait until that urge goes away and we can have self-control when discussing the issue.
2 The tongue of the wise makes knowledge appealing,
but the mouth of a fool belches out foolishness.
**We have the ability to make His knowledge, His words appealing to others through the words WE choose. How's that for powerful? If we choose the right words, it draws others to want to know Him. I don't think we ever want to get in the way of that. And what if those others were our children?
4 Gentle words are a tree of life;
a deceitful tongue crushes the spirit.
23 Everyone enjoys a fitting reply;
it is wonderful to say the right thing at the right time!
**And we know when we've actually done this. You can feel it all the way down to your soul. Why we don't do the all the time? I believe it all roots back to selfishness (included in that is pride, arrogance, overbearingness, control, even unbridled sadness for no comprehensive reason...just being sad for attention).
28 The heart of the godly thinks carefully before speaking;
the mouth of the wicked overflows with evil words.
**Key word..."thinks." What mountains we would move if we just thought about what came out of our mouth and really examined those words closely? Seriously! Like an arrow to my heart!
In my study Bible it gives the following definition of the Four Tongues:
1. The Controlled Tongue: Those with this speech pattern thing before speaking, know when silence is best, and give wise advise.
2. The Caring Tongue: Those that speak truthfully while seeking to encourage.
3. The Conniving Tongue: Those that are filled with wrong motives, gossip, slander, and a desire to twist truth.
4. The Careless Tongue: These are filled with lies, curses, quick-tempered words, which can lead to rebellion and destruction.
This weekend think about which tongue you will enable as you deal particularly with your hubby and kiddos. I will do the same...
If there has been wrong done because of your words this week, then seek to resolve those issues before Sunday.
Remember, being "right" does not always lead to happiness, peace, or joy. My need to be right can destroy my home, my marriage, my relationships. Instead, seek to reconcile with your "person of interest" and put their interests higher than your own. This is a challenge for me because I definitely have some humble apologies to make to the ones I love. Too bad my words aren't always loving!
Much love mamas!!
Have a great weekend! "See" you Monday!
R
Five days, ladies, and to say I have not been challenged every day, would be a lie.
My intentions and my actions do NOT match, and I am working on self-control. Isn't that a fruit of the spirit?? Wouldn't it be lovely if my fruit tree actually grew self-control?! Haa! I am willing, the Lord is very willing. Let's just see if I can squash all the muck and reality that gets in the way of my willingness!
So thank you so much for going on this journey with me! If any of you have feedback, thoughts, ponderings, I'd love to hear them! Email, text, or call anytime!
One of my dearest friends in the whole world wrote me this yesterday, and I loved it. What I say in 10 paragraphs, she says in one!
"Rebecca – I saw a billboard yesterday that really spoke to my heart. It read, “your past may be stained but your future is spotless.” This gives me hope as I face a new day. I hold tight to a saying an old bible teacher said once, “Pray, obey, repeat”. These nuggets of truth are my inspiration. I am never going to be perfect. No matter what the mistakes I made yesterday or today, I have hope for a better tomorrow. "
Hope, girls! That's what it is all about. That is why we are doing this. Hope in a God who can make us better. Hope in He who is powerful enough to change our circumstances drastically, but wise enough to grow us through them. Hope that our lives will make a difference in those around us. And hope in the eternal life that awaits us with brilliance. Maybe that's why the saying goes, "Hope springs eternal."
Proverbs 15: The Tongue...
Yes, we're back to this topic after Proverbs 13. But I think, again, our words impact our world so much!
1 A gentle answer deflects anger,
but harsh words make tempers flare.
**My Study Bible just said, "Have you ever tried to argue in a whisper? It is equally hard to argue with someone who insists on answering gently. On the other hand, a rising voice and harsh words almost always trigger an angry response. To turn away wrath and seek peace, choose gentle words."
So true! To take it one step farther, why do we argue? Most of the time it's because we're trying to make our point known. But if we can't convey that point without bringing on a fight with our spouse, then we need to sit back and wait. Wait until that urge goes away and we can have self-control when discussing the issue.
2 The tongue of the wise makes knowledge appealing,
but the mouth of a fool belches out foolishness.
**We have the ability to make His knowledge, His words appealing to others through the words WE choose. How's that for powerful? If we choose the right words, it draws others to want to know Him. I don't think we ever want to get in the way of that. And what if those others were our children?
4 Gentle words are a tree of life;
a deceitful tongue crushes the spirit.
23 Everyone enjoys a fitting reply;
it is wonderful to say the right thing at the right time!
**And we know when we've actually done this. You can feel it all the way down to your soul. Why we don't do the all the time? I believe it all roots back to selfishness (included in that is pride, arrogance, overbearingness, control, even unbridled sadness for no comprehensive reason...just being sad for attention).
28 The heart of the godly thinks carefully before speaking;
the mouth of the wicked overflows with evil words.
**Key word..."thinks." What mountains we would move if we just thought about what came out of our mouth and really examined those words closely? Seriously! Like an arrow to my heart!
In my study Bible it gives the following definition of the Four Tongues:
1. The Controlled Tongue: Those with this speech pattern thing before speaking, know when silence is best, and give wise advise.
2. The Caring Tongue: Those that speak truthfully while seeking to encourage.
3. The Conniving Tongue: Those that are filled with wrong motives, gossip, slander, and a desire to twist truth.
4. The Careless Tongue: These are filled with lies, curses, quick-tempered words, which can lead to rebellion and destruction.
This weekend think about which tongue you will enable as you deal particularly with your hubby and kiddos. I will do the same...
If there has been wrong done because of your words this week, then seek to resolve those issues before Sunday.
Remember, being "right" does not always lead to happiness, peace, or joy. My need to be right can destroy my home, my marriage, my relationships. Instead, seek to reconcile with your "person of interest" and put their interests higher than your own. This is a challenge for me because I definitely have some humble apologies to make to the ones I love. Too bad my words aren't always loving!
Much love mamas!!
Have a great weekend! "See" you Monday!
R
Thursday, January 14, 2010
Never Alone
Oh, My Lovely and Gracious, Honest and Godly Friends:
I love, love, love hearing from you! For your words bless my heart more than you know! The biggest lesson learned is that, as sisters in Christ, we are all fighting for the same thing for the same reason for the glory of Him who controls all things.
You are NOT alone. Not ever. For the One who created you surrounds you at all times, and the body of Christ does the same. We gather around one another, pray, and support in any way possible.
I've made the below contributions anonymous so you feel free to share anytime. Thanks Ladies for the quotes below!
Easier said than done...
Filter...
Restraint...
Breathe...
Filter...
This is me today...
This is a tough place for me. I am learning to EAT my words quickly. Shove them back down your mouth without uttering a sound. It does pay off. I have been quietly just accepting things he does or says without comment. Also trying not to give BODY LANGUAGE either. After one month of doing this and having watched Fireproof, I received a beautiful Christmas Card from him --- it really does work. Now just to keep it up !!
I really needed to hear this....I have been speaking to my husband and kids in a horrible fashion! I am working on thinking a bit before I speak...its not easy for me I tend to flip on everything!! I could use a lot of prayer in this area...it is impossible to do it on my own, but with God all things are possible!
It’s funny that I didn’t specifically make a resolution, but as the new year unfolded I found myself trying to prioritize things a bit differently. Reading Proverbs has led me to move many things I already know from the back of my brain to the front of my brain where I can put them to use much quicker. I finished reading a book called, “Have a Little Faith,” by Mitch Albom and even though it doesn’t seem like much it’s a huge accomplishment because I start books all the time and don’t find the time to finish them. The cool thing is that by taking a little time for myself to read and reflect I’m finding that I’m checking in with God throughout my day. For example when I’m feeling frazzled, you know that moment just before everything starts to get out of hand, I’m able to be aware of what’s happening and ask God for help. It’s usually at that moment that my whole perspective changes and then things become more manageable. Reading Proverbs is challenging me to live God’s way, and the number one most important thing is that it is His way and not my way. I’m so thankful and humbled by this.
What a kick in the kiester. My mouth and my words are such a daily struggle. I feel like my heart is so ugly. It's horrifying. I have been yelling at the kids all day... underlying issues... too many to list. I feel the weight of this ugliness in my heart and wondered when it happened. It's not who I am or what I want to be. I feel like my heart is SO HARD that there is no way that God can even penetrate it. I have been seeking, trying to pray, and yet, my life remains the same. I read your words about actually acting and making changes but feel so lost in the struggle I can't seem to find the way out. It's so my desire. I want my kids to feel loved, blessed and to have a mom that has wise, strong words of encouragement and love, not sharp words of frustration that make them feel like crap. IDK what to do. My heart is seriously seeking right now. I so praise God for giving me my husband who in my struggle sees my humanness and stress and understands. He listens and thoughtfully processes my needs and how to help me through them. He's more than I deserve at this point.
So, here's Proverbs 14 tid-bit:
6 A mocker seeks wisdom and never finds it,
but knowledge comes easily to those with understanding.
Ladies...YOU are NOT mockers. For you understand. (The Greek root for this understand is to discern or consider.) You understand the truth. You understand the God we serve. You are rooted in HIs Word, and your heart and soul belong to Him.
So therefore the knowledge (Gr: perception, skill, wisdom) of Him and His words transforms our lives, because we UNDERSTAND.
It's not about the destination. It's not about being perfect. It's not about reaching the goal.
Instead it's all about the journey, the refinement in our daily walk, and running the race.
Philippians 2:16
Hold firmly to the word of life; then, on the day of Christ's return, I will be proud that I did not run the race in vain and that my work was not useless.
So, ladies, just focus on today. Go get new "running shoes", tune your ipod to Him, grab a running partner, and get moving. For it's all about baby steps!
Much much love!
Rebecca
I love, love, love hearing from you! For your words bless my heart more than you know! The biggest lesson learned is that, as sisters in Christ, we are all fighting for the same thing for the same reason for the glory of Him who controls all things.
You are NOT alone. Not ever. For the One who created you surrounds you at all times, and the body of Christ does the same. We gather around one another, pray, and support in any way possible.
I've made the below contributions anonymous so you feel free to share anytime. Thanks Ladies for the quotes below!
Easier said than done...
Filter...
Restraint...
Breathe...
Filter...
This is me today...
This is a tough place for me. I am learning to EAT my words quickly. Shove them back down your mouth without uttering a sound. It does pay off. I have been quietly just accepting things he does or says without comment. Also trying not to give BODY LANGUAGE either. After one month of doing this and having watched Fireproof, I received a beautiful Christmas Card from him --- it really does work. Now just to keep it up !!
I really needed to hear this....I have been speaking to my husband and kids in a horrible fashion! I am working on thinking a bit before I speak...its not easy for me I tend to flip on everything!! I could use a lot of prayer in this area...it is impossible to do it on my own, but with God all things are possible!
It’s funny that I didn’t specifically make a resolution, but as the new year unfolded I found myself trying to prioritize things a bit differently. Reading Proverbs has led me to move many things I already know from the back of my brain to the front of my brain where I can put them to use much quicker. I finished reading a book called, “Have a Little Faith,” by Mitch Albom and even though it doesn’t seem like much it’s a huge accomplishment because I start books all the time and don’t find the time to finish them. The cool thing is that by taking a little time for myself to read and reflect I’m finding that I’m checking in with God throughout my day. For example when I’m feeling frazzled, you know that moment just before everything starts to get out of hand, I’m able to be aware of what’s happening and ask God for help. It’s usually at that moment that my whole perspective changes and then things become more manageable. Reading Proverbs is challenging me to live God’s way, and the number one most important thing is that it is His way and not my way. I’m so thankful and humbled by this.
What a kick in the kiester. My mouth and my words are such a daily struggle. I feel like my heart is so ugly. It's horrifying. I have been yelling at the kids all day... underlying issues... too many to list. I feel the weight of this ugliness in my heart and wondered when it happened. It's not who I am or what I want to be. I feel like my heart is SO HARD that there is no way that God can even penetrate it. I have been seeking, trying to pray, and yet, my life remains the same. I read your words about actually acting and making changes but feel so lost in the struggle I can't seem to find the way out. It's so my desire. I want my kids to feel loved, blessed and to have a mom that has wise, strong words of encouragement and love, not sharp words of frustration that make them feel like crap. IDK what to do. My heart is seriously seeking right now. I so praise God for giving me my husband who in my struggle sees my humanness and stress and understands. He listens and thoughtfully processes my needs and how to help me through them. He's more than I deserve at this point.
So, here's Proverbs 14 tid-bit:
6 A mocker seeks wisdom and never finds it,
but knowledge comes easily to those with understanding.
Ladies...YOU are NOT mockers. For you understand. (The Greek root for this understand is to discern or consider.) You understand the truth. You understand the God we serve. You are rooted in HIs Word, and your heart and soul belong to Him.
So therefore the knowledge (Gr: perception, skill, wisdom) of Him and His words transforms our lives, because we UNDERSTAND.
It's not about the destination. It's not about being perfect. It's not about reaching the goal.
Instead it's all about the journey, the refinement in our daily walk, and running the race.
Philippians 2:16
Hold firmly to the word of life; then, on the day of Christ's return, I will be proud that I did not run the race in vain and that my work was not useless.
So, ladies, just focus on today. Go get new "running shoes", tune your ipod to Him, grab a running partner, and get moving. For it's all about baby steps!
Much much love!
Rebecca
Wednesday, January 13, 2010
Choose Your Words Wisely
Hey Mama Friends!
Happy Hump Day...Wednesday, I mean! It's all downhill from here!
Can you believe January is almost 1/2 done? How are you doing on your resolutions? Any successes you want to share? Anything you've learned during this two week period of time?
We're all on this amazing journey called life...and we're all learning different things at once. I think it would be amazingly encouraging to hear what God is doing in your life! Just email me back and I'll compile everyone's answers and email them out tomorrow. Such fun! :)
*****
Proverbs 13.
I'll keep this one short since there is one verse that deserve a little time spent processing and applying it today, especially as women.
v3 Those who control their tongue will have a long life; a quick retort can ruin everything.
Easier read, than done. Actually easier wished for, easier desired, easier forgotten, than done. And done consistently.
No matter how many scented candles we burn, cookies we bake, decor we hang up, the bottom line is it is our words that determines the emotional atmosphere of our home.
See, words are simply an outward expression of the chaos and havoc that reign supreme in our hearts and minds. Eventually, if you do not examine your thoughts and refine them under His magnifying glass, they will come out as words. And when they do, most of the time the grief caused is really not worth the words in the first place.
How wise Solomon was to write: "a quick retort can ruin EVERYTHING." Everything. Just not some things...but absolutely everything.
I've actually been on a date with Cliff and with one fell swoop of a negative or condescending comment from me, I can actually ruin the entire night. And I do mean entire night...
For those words then have a ripple affect, and the repercussions can go on and on and on even for days if we let our pride get in the way of making things right. Those words determine how others react back to us, in words and in deeds...and if left unhealed, those words can destroy the future relationship, as well as leave negative memories in the past.
It's exhausting to think that every day we have to possibility of impacting the future through our relationship with our husband, our example to our children, and then in our children's lives just by choosing our words wisely.
(I love in the movie Ever After with Drew Barrymore, the queen tells the wicked stepmother, "Choose your words wisely, for they may be your last.")
But instead of seeing it exhausting, see it as freeing. Every moment, every hour, every day, we have the possibility of making someone light up with our words. We have the possibility of molding our child's memories into ones of happiness and peace. We have the opportunity to build up our marriage and our husband through our encouraging and gentle words. And how amazing is that?
Today, before you say something negative or critical, try putting it through the filter of the following:
1. Am I truly ticked/hurt about this one event, or is there an underlying reason for feeling this way that I should address instead? (Don't critique the dishes if you're really feeling unloved.)
2. Is this a mountain or a molehill? Is this worth dying for? (Sometimes I don't say anything, pretending it's a molehill, and then three weeks later it's a mountain because I've hung onto it. If you've determined at this moment it's a molehill, then LET IT GO!!)
3. If someone was coming to me with this same concern, how would I receive it best? (Yelling and arguing are usually not the way to "move" a person emotionally.)
4. And once, filtered, and you've determined what you're going to say and how you're going to say it, then WAIT for the right time. Wait for the kiddos to be occupied, wait for the stress of work to dissipate, wait for the distractions to go away...you'll know when. Promise!
In Titus 2 yesterday, Pastor David Hegg said, "You built the spouse you have." (Just like, you have the kind of kids you spent molding.)
Like an arrow to my perfect wife bubble, "pop" went all I thought was true...and my world just turned upside down. For how Cliff responds to me is largely based on how and with what words I engage him. That's food for thought!
So, my friends. Words. Check them today as you enter into conversation with your family...and may He calm your mind, take your worry, encourage your walk, and give you the strength to succeed just for today.
Love!
Rebecca
Happy Hump Day...Wednesday, I mean! It's all downhill from here!
Can you believe January is almost 1/2 done? How are you doing on your resolutions? Any successes you want to share? Anything you've learned during this two week period of time?
We're all on this amazing journey called life...and we're all learning different things at once. I think it would be amazingly encouraging to hear what God is doing in your life! Just email me back and I'll compile everyone's answers and email them out tomorrow. Such fun! :)
*****
Proverbs 13.
I'll keep this one short since there is one verse that deserve a little time spent processing and applying it today, especially as women.
v3 Those who control their tongue will have a long life; a quick retort can ruin everything.
Easier read, than done. Actually easier wished for, easier desired, easier forgotten, than done. And done consistently.
No matter how many scented candles we burn, cookies we bake, decor we hang up, the bottom line is it is our words that determines the emotional atmosphere of our home.
See, words are simply an outward expression of the chaos and havoc that reign supreme in our hearts and minds. Eventually, if you do not examine your thoughts and refine them under His magnifying glass, they will come out as words. And when they do, most of the time the grief caused is really not worth the words in the first place.
How wise Solomon was to write: "a quick retort can ruin EVERYTHING." Everything. Just not some things...but absolutely everything.
I've actually been on a date with Cliff and with one fell swoop of a negative or condescending comment from me, I can actually ruin the entire night. And I do mean entire night...
For those words then have a ripple affect, and the repercussions can go on and on and on even for days if we let our pride get in the way of making things right. Those words determine how others react back to us, in words and in deeds...and if left unhealed, those words can destroy the future relationship, as well as leave negative memories in the past.
It's exhausting to think that every day we have to possibility of impacting the future through our relationship with our husband, our example to our children, and then in our children's lives just by choosing our words wisely.
(I love in the movie Ever After with Drew Barrymore, the queen tells the wicked stepmother, "Choose your words wisely, for they may be your last.")
But instead of seeing it exhausting, see it as freeing. Every moment, every hour, every day, we have the possibility of making someone light up with our words. We have the possibility of molding our child's memories into ones of happiness and peace. We have the opportunity to build up our marriage and our husband through our encouraging and gentle words. And how amazing is that?
Today, before you say something negative or critical, try putting it through the filter of the following:
1. Am I truly ticked/hurt about this one event, or is there an underlying reason for feeling this way that I should address instead? (Don't critique the dishes if you're really feeling unloved.)
2. Is this a mountain or a molehill? Is this worth dying for? (Sometimes I don't say anything, pretending it's a molehill, and then three weeks later it's a mountain because I've hung onto it. If you've determined at this moment it's a molehill, then LET IT GO!!)
3. If someone was coming to me with this same concern, how would I receive it best? (Yelling and arguing are usually not the way to "move" a person emotionally.)
4. And once, filtered, and you've determined what you're going to say and how you're going to say it, then WAIT for the right time. Wait for the kiddos to be occupied, wait for the stress of work to dissipate, wait for the distractions to go away...you'll know when. Promise!
In Titus 2 yesterday, Pastor David Hegg said, "You built the spouse you have." (Just like, you have the kind of kids you spent molding.)
Like an arrow to my perfect wife bubble, "pop" went all I thought was true...and my world just turned upside down. For how Cliff responds to me is largely based on how and with what words I engage him. That's food for thought!
So, my friends. Words. Check them today as you enter into conversation with your family...and may He calm your mind, take your worry, encourage your walk, and give you the strength to succeed just for today.
Love!
Rebecca
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